Is there any way for us to move on?

The answer is yes. But definitely, as most of us can say “it is not easy”. Cheating per se has a wide scope of its mean. It can be that of looking and investing love to someone else while you are committed in a relationship. Cheating can also be investing too much time on something or hobby instead to your special someone. And cheating can also mean lying or hiding your true identity (catfishing).

Whatever form of cheating it might be, cheating is cheating and it will always be a “choice”. Temptation against faithfulness and disloyalty often takes place that is why accountability in partnership matters. Not to mention, moral values is important too. Moving forward, how to move on when someone cheated on you?

Identify closure and process your grief

It is manifested that having “closure” in an ended relationship helps because from this, pain can be on fire but it is the first step to your grieving process. Anger or hatred, denial, confusion. Name it. Thus, it is important to feel and process them because suppressing these emotions are not helpful. It will add up to an extreme trauma.

Deleting of photos or burying of things that will remind you of the person

Deleting or burying anything that will remind you of the presence of the person who cheated on you might be a helpful one. It helps in clearing your mind out of the box with the person you once love. Also, counselors suggest that the avoidance of visiting their social media accounts, quitting the method of asking his or her current state from your common friends and not taking much time on the places that reminds you of him or her would be of so much help.

Healing from the trauma means ‘Self-Love’

It takes self-love and growth to be whole again. Might it be you whose part of the first-hand experience of cheating or you’ve seen it from a family member, trauma is a serious matter. Yes, it is hard to trust again or build your own kind of relationship. Especially if you are not completely healed. Take steps in treating yourself, having bond with your friends and family and again, ‘me-time’ such as pampering, hiking, beaching or any hobby that you find delightful to take on.

Do not entertain anyone if you are still vulnerable

Yes, you read it right. The danger in hopping to another relationship quickly could be, chances are, you might just give or pass the trauma or pain to that person. If you know it in yourself that you are not ready yet, then do not gamble. No one is rushing you anyways. Also, you might end up having no enough love for yourself because you have given ‘love too much’. Slow down. Pause. Heal first.

These things above might not be enough to support you in your moving on stage. But one thing is sure, this too shall pass. Your healing might take time but surely that pure love exists and you deserve to be happy.