As someone who had a really hard time coming out, there’s a lot of reason why you should not out or force someone to come out of the “closet”. It is never okay to divulge someone else’s privacy without their expressed permission. Outing someone without permission is no less reprehensible as disclosing how much money someone makes, their health problems, the password of their Facebook account, or telling someone he’s/she’s fat or thin. Here are some of the reasons why it’s never okay to out someone:

Some people are experiencing “gender identity crisis”.

These precious people are still in the middle of figuring out themselves, and yes --- including their own gender preferences. One of the factors that might trigger someone to become confused or question his/her gender identity is movies, it is when one gets to watch a film that includes or tackles LGBTQ. It is possible for someone to start questioning his/her preference because that person who was able to watch such films will grasp the idea or will think that he/she has a huge possibility to become gay/lesbian or not straight. (applying Gebner and Gross’s Cultivation Theory) even though they are really not.

Some people experienced childhood trauma.

It is an awful truth that some of innocent children had gone through different traumas caused by different violence. This is one of the factors that might trigger someone to become more confused with his/her own gender identity as they question themselves “what if that did not happen to me? What if I did not experience that?” So to think that you can just out someone who is struggling a lot into figuring himself/herself because of childhood trauma that should not have happened in the first place, it’s just so wrong.

On the other hand, sometimes outing a person can save others from harm. The most common example is the self-loathing homosexual in a position of power who seeks to deflect suspicion away from himself by oppressing gays and lesbians who are out as a way of "proving" to others that he/she is heterosexual.

Also, even though someone has not come out yet, you can show your support by giving them time to bloom on their own, or make them feel that there’s no problem with being gay or lesbian, that we fully accept them of what they truly are. And that it’s okay if they still haven’t fully figured out what they really are. As long as he/she does not blame himself/herself for their struggle, that’s the only thing that matters.